1. The Random
2. The Cliché
3. The Deep and Meaningful
4. The Massive Lad
5. Those Who Need to Learn How To Spell
6. The Simple
7. The Lie
8. The Instant Swipe Left
Much has been said about how our generation expects everything NOW, whether it’s money, fame, success, happiness, love etc. Most of us have been told that the world is our oyster, and as result there’s an expectation of things to come to us freely and easily with little or no effort from our side. And I’m beginning to think that this attitude extends to sex.
Now, it’s nothing new that people want to have sex, and that they want it often. Nor is it surprising that not everyone wants to invest in three dates and dinner in order to get down and dirty. But recent events have highlighted just how lazy some people (and yes I’m talking about guys here) are when it comes to getting laid.
I understand that Tinder has gained a certain reputation for being used for easy hook-ups, and I have nothing against that as a concept. After all, that radius setting is there for a reason right? But I’ve really begun to question what kind of girl it takes to receive a message from a guy saying ‘hey hot stuff, fancy coming round to my place?’ and replying with ‘sure, I’ll be there in 10’. Now I’m by no means frigid, but I really do draw the line at going round to the house of someone I’ve never met before just to get it on. In the past week, I’ve had two guys offer me their, erm, ‘hospitality’, without ever having met them and with only a few brief messages exchanged.
Call me a cynic, but I’m pretty sure I know what ‘small spoon’ and ‘massage’ are alluding to. So having gently rebuffed these oh-so generous offers, did I hear from either guy again? Nope. So that’s it? A girl you’ve never met before doesn’t come round to your house the minute you ask her and that’s as much effort you’re willing to put in? Like I said, I totally understand that the majority of Tinder users (especially the male ones) are just in it for an easy lay, but this is really testing the boundaries of laziness.
It also makes me wonder if this approach ever works. I’d like to think that all girls are sensible enough to not drop their knickers at the snap of a Tinder lothario’s fingers, but the realist in me knows that somewhere out there some ladies are doing just that, and in the process ruining it for the rest of us. Also, wouldn’t that be the most awkward situation ever?
Tinder Girl: Hey, you’re Tinder Guy right?
Tinder Guy: Sure am, come on in.
Tinder Girl: So, um, nice place you’ve got here…
Tinder Guy: Thanks… would you like a cup of tea or shall we just get straight to it?
I mean, it’s one step short of invoicing the guy for services rendered.
So, Alex/Luke/every other Tinder chap out there, sorry but you’re going to have to try a bit harder.
Oh goody, it’s that time of year again. Everywhere I look there are pink hearts flowing out of every shop window and TV advert, all of those style/beauty websites I subscribe to are sending me ideas for the ‘perfect Valentines nails’ and ‘gift ideas for him’, and once again, for the sixth year in a row (sob), I find myself alone and not even a hope of a card softly dropping onto my doormat on February 14th.
BUT, this year I thought I’d try to avoid my annual rant about the awful commercialism and contrived nature of Valentines Day. I thought I’d try to squash down the barely-concealed feelings of bitterness and jealousy that usually rise up to the surface at this time of year. I could harp on about how I couldn’t think of anything worse than going to a restaurant full of loads of other couples all trying to be super-romantic where everyone looks like they feel they should be on the verge of proposing. I could analyse how most girls will claim to hate V-Day and yet will throw a strop if their boyfriend takes this at face value and doesn’t even buy a card. But no, this year I’m breaking the mould.
In a bid to have a more positive outlook on love and life as a whole (and yes this might be in part a result of being pegged as an ‘angry single girl who seems to hate everyone in relationships’), I thought I’d try something different. So, in an attempt to focus on and cherish what I have or have had, here is a summary of all of the romantic gestures I have experienced. Ever.
Well… it would seem that the last 25 years have been rather low on the romantic gesture front. Or, maybe this is just normal. Maybe I’m not the only once who’s life is devoid of red roses and string quartets and thoughtful gifts and poetry recitals. Perhaps our perception of romance has been swayed by Hollywood. And then add to that a good dollop of British reserve and sarcasm: it’s hardly surprising if my tally of romantic gestures is about average.
So, Happy Valentines Day everyone! If you have a special someone to share it with, I do genuinely hope that you have a lovely time together and aren’t overcome with cynicism about the whole thing. If you’re a bona fide member of the Lonely Hearts Club, team up with other members and remember that couples aren’t the only ones who can go to restaurants and eat chocolate and get laid and feel good about themselves. Don’t sit at home with a bottle of wine and the full Richard Curtis DVD collection. This will only result in texting your ex and feeling like an idiot the next day. And definitely DO NOT get absolutely hammered and sleep with a fellow single colleague. This will only bring you untold pain and misery, not to mention an awkward working environment.
Go forth and be merry!
Ahh, the tube. That miracle of engineering. That transporter of industrious souls off to bring home the proverbial bacon. That inspiration for poetry, art and music. Sound familiar? Thought not.
It is a fact of life that if you live and/or work in London, you will have to take the tube at some point. If you visit London as a tourist, you will feel that you have to take the tube at some point. And even if you claim to hate the tube and try to avoid it at all costs (cycling, bus, taxi, walking), you will still have to use it at some point. The tube is omnipresent (except when you want to buy an affordable house with good transport links which is when there suddenly seems to be an unhealthy lack of tube stations in desirable parts of south London), and you only need to look at the state of near-panic we’re all experiencing ahead of the strikes this week to realise how much we’ve come to depend on that noisy, smelly, overcrowded network of underground passages that are essentially glorified cattle carts.
So without further ado, here are My Top Ten Most Hated Things About The London Underground:
1: PDA Couples
We’ve all encountered them, generally when you’ve just been through a break-up. WHY do they need to kiss so noisily at 7:30am on a Wednesday??
2: The Antisocial Backpack
Generally takes up at least one person’s standing room, and pokes you uncomfortably hard in the boobs with weird buckles and attachments.
3: The Lone Salmon
That guy who wants to get on the platform when everyone else wants to get off, or hasn’t sorted out his tube strategy and finds himself at the opposite end of the platform from where he needs to be
4: The Northern Line
Overcrowded, hot, smelly, never works properly, high chance of bumping into someone you don’t want to, confusing for first-timers with that whole ‘Bank Branch’ thing, and a veritable death trap if you want to get on at Clapham Common or Clapham North – why more people haven’t fallen onto the tracks at rush hour defeats me.
5:The Pole Hogger
That’s where my hand is meant to go! Shame on you, Patrick Stewart…
6: Over-efficient Heating
Clearly the bods at TFL who control the temperature of the tube have never had to travel on the tube at rush hour. Mmmm hello someone else’s sweaty armpit…
7: The Mystery Farter
Seriously people, do some squats before you leave the house or something, just get rid of it before you subject a packed carriage to the results of your inner gaseous movements.
8: The Guy Who Stares
He flouts the no-eye-contact rule, he’s looking at you every time you glance in his direction, and OH MY GOD what is he doing with his hands?!
9: Shit Earphones
Because of course everyone in the carriage wants to listen to angry metal music as well…
10: Lad Soc
Drinking cans of Fosters, doing pull-ups on the bars, trying to engage strangers in conversation, tend to be Australian…